Understanding the Ego
The concept of the ego is often used in different contexts and can have various interpretations. Because the ego is an important part of truly understanding The Enneagram, it’s important for us to discuss & define what it represents.
In psychology and spirituality, the ego typically refers to the self-identity and our individual sense of “I.” It encompasses our thoughts, beliefs, desires, and fears that shape our perception of ourselves and the world around us.
Typically, when we hear the word ego, we think of Freud's theory, involving the id, ego, & superego. The Enneagram’s version actually differs from this. While both concepts revolve around the idea of self-awareness and personality, their approaches are different.
In Freudian psychology, the ego is one of three components that make up the human psyche, along with the id and superego. The ego acts as a mediator between instinctual desires (id) and societal norms (superego), seeking to satisfy both in a socially acceptable way. It’s responsible for rational thought, decision-making, and problem-solving.
From The Enneagram’s perspective, however, the concept of ego is more closely related to self-identity and how we view ourselves in relation to the world. The Enneagram suggests that the ego is formed as a coping mechanism in response to childhood experiences and the way individuals interpret and adapt to those experiences. Each Enneagram type develops a specific pattern of thinking, feeling, and behaving as a way to protect themselves from these perceived threats or vulnerabilities. It’s not a separate component of the self, but rather a lens through which we perceive reality. The 9 Types the Enneagram lays out are separate ego experiences, each with its own set of motivations, fears, and defense mechanisms.
One key difference between the two theories is that Freud's ego is seen as something to be controlled and tamed, while The Enneagram's ego is seen as something to be understood and integrated. According to Freud, a healthy individual should have a strong ego that can balance the conflicting demands of the id and superego. In contrast, The Enneagram sees the ego as a necessary part of our personality that can provide valuable insights into our inner workings.
Understanding your Enneagram type can help you understand your personal patterns and tendencies, allowing you to make conscious choices instead of being driven purely by unconscious impulses. It also allows for greater self-compassion and acceptance as we realize that our ego is just one aspect of ourselves, not all-defining.
To put this into practice, here is a breakdown of how the Ego is defined for each type.
EIGHT - The ego for Enneagram 8’s is characterized by a need for control and power. They often see themselves as strong and independent, relying on their assertiveness and willpower to navigate the world. Their ego tends to manifest as a desire to avoid vulnerability by maintaining a tough exterior and dominating their environment.
NINE - The ego of of Enneagram 9’s is marked by a tendency to merge with others and avoid conflict. They may suppress their own needs and desires to keep the peace, often appearing complacent or indecisive. Their ego seeks harmony and comfort, sometimes leading them to neglect their own priorities in favor of maintaining external tranquility.
ONE - The ego of Enneagram 1 is driven by a relentless pursuit of perfection and righteousness. They hold themselves to high standards and can be critical of themselves and others when these standards are not met. Their ego often manifests as a need to correct flaws and uphold moral principles, sometimes at the expense of flexibility and acceptance.
TWO - The ego of Enneagram 2 is centered around seeking love and approval through acts of service and care for others. They may struggle to acknowledge their own needs, instead focusing on meeting the needs of those around them in hopes of being valued and appreciated. Their ego can lead them to become overly dependent on others' validation for their sense of self-worth.
THREE - The ego of the Enneagram 3 is characterized by a drive for success and admiration. They often define themselves by their accomplishments and external recognition, striving to maintain an image of competence and efficiency. Their ego can lead them to prioritize productivity over personal fulfillment and authenticity.
FOUR - The ego of Enneagram 4 is shaped by a deep sense of longing and uniqueness. They may feel misunderstood or different from others, leading them to cultivate a rich inner world and a strong sense of identity. Their ego can manifest as a preoccupation with their emotions and personal experiences, sometimes leading to feelings of melancholy or self-absorption.
FIVE - The ego of Enneagram 5 is characterized by a pursuit of knowledge and understanding. They often withdraw into their minds, seeking to master concepts and ideas as a way of feeling competent and secure. Their ego can lead them to detach from their emotions and relationships, preferring intellectual pursuits to more intimate forms of connection.
SIX - The ego of Enneagram 6 is driven by a need for security and guidance. They may be skeptical of authority yet seek reassurance from trusted sources to navigate uncertainty and potential threats. Their ego can lead them to become hyper-vigilant and anxious, constantly scanning their environment for signs of danger or betrayal.
SEVEN - The ego of Enneagram 7 is characterized by a pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of pain. They often seek new experiences and distractions to escape discomfort and maintain a sense of freedom and possibility. Their ego can lead them to avoid facing difficult emotions or commitments, preferring to stay in a state of excitement and optimism.
It’s important to note that the ego is not wrong. Each type’s ego develops as a way to make them feel safe & secure. When the type is on autopilot, there is little choice or control in behaviors and state of being. When we bring awareness to the ego, and the thoughts, feelings, and actions that accompany it, we have the opportunity to remain curious and observant of the patterns, and work toward integration.